You Want to Be Kind, Yet Saying Yes Is Starting To Cost You
You’re thoughtful, caring, and dependable.
Yet lately, saying yes leaves you feeling resentful, overwhelmed, or invisible.
Therapy can help you shift out of people-pleasing and start honoring your own needs—with clarity and care.
You Say Yes To Keep The Peace—But You’re Not Okay Inside.
That friend is calling again. The one who always leans on you—who vents, spirals, and asks for advice, again and again. You listen. You validate. You offer support because you care. Because that’s who you are.
But over time, something starts to shift. You feel yourself pulling back—not from love, but from exhaustion. The same conversations keep happening. The emotional weight keeps growing. And you’re realizing this friendship has started to feel one-sided. They’re becoming more dependent. And you’re becoming more drained.
You want to say something. To set a boundary. To name how much it’s costing you. But when the moment comes, your throat tightens. The guilt kicks in. A wave of fear follows—What if they think I don’t care? What if I hurt them? What if they pull away?
So you keep saying yes, even when it’s too much. You show up, again. And each time, you feel yourself disappear a little more. Not because you want to. But because saying no feels too risky.
You’ve been the dependable one for so long—it’s hard to imagine what it would look like to choose yourself.
You’re Allowed To Have Needs, Limits, & Space
In therapy, you’ll have space to be honest—without guilt, pressure, or pretending.
We’ll slow down and look at what’s really going on underneath the urge to say yes all the time.
You might have learned that saying no makes you difficult. Or that your needs aren’t as important as keeping everyone else happy.
Together, we’ll start to unlearn those messages—and begin building new ways of relating to yourself and the people in your life.
I use a mix of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and attachment-based therapy to help you feel more grounded, connected, and confident in your relationships.
We’ll gently explore:
The part of you that always says yes—even when you don’t want to
Why guilt or fear shows up when you try to set a boundary
How early relationship dynamics shaped your view of what it means to be “good” or “lovable”
What it could look like to stay connected to others and yourself at the same time
This isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about making space for you—your voice, your needs, your comfort.
You can be kind and still be honest.
It doesn’t make you mean—it makes you real.
Therapy can help you:
Set boundaries without guilt or fear
Say no and still feel like a kind, caring person
Speak up for your needs in relationships
Trust that you don’t have to earn your place
Let go of resentment and show up with more honesty
Feel more connected to yourself, not just to everyone else
You don’t have to keep saying yes just to feel accepted.
You deserve to show up fully—and still feel safe, seen, and valued.
You’re allowed to take up space—even if you’re used to being the one who gives it.
If this page speaks to your experience, you’re not alone.
Therapy can help you untangle the pressure to say yes and start honoring what you truly need.
Let’s talk about what support could look like—no pressure, just a starting point.