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You Don’t Have to Hustle to Prove You Belong
Heal the root, not just the symptom| Kristen Silva, LMFT| IFS Therapist in California for women facing anxiety, shame, perfectionism, and people-pleasing
You are tired of living by other people’s expectations instead of your own
You give so much to everyone else, but at the end of the day you’re left feeling drained, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you’re ever “enough.” The voice of self-doubt is loud, and no matter how hard you try, it feels like the pressure never lets up.
You’re not alone—many women feel this pressure. The good news is, it’s possible to create a life that feels authentic and fulfilling. I’m here to support you every step of the way.
Imagine noticing the voice of self-doubt without getting pulled into it. Over time, you can respond with curiosity instead of shame, set boundaries without guilt, and move through your day with steadier confidence.
Therapy helps you live from your calm, clear center more often—even when life gets messy..
When we tend to what’s beneath the surface, your life can bloom in ways you never imagined.
I help women navigating anxiety, self-doubt, perfectionism, and relationship stress reconnect with their inner selves and begin healing from the roots. Through IFS parts work, we gently explore the parts of you that are trying so hard to help—the anxious part that keeps scanning for signs something’s wrong in that relationship, the perfectionist part that pushes you to succeed at all costs, and the shame part that shows up when things don’t go as planned. Together, we help these parts soften so you can feel more grounded, more whole, and more in charge of your life again.
About Kristen Silva, LMFT
I know what it’s like to feel the pressure to hold it all together while struggling underneath. For years I pushed myself to meet everyone’s expectations, believing I had to be perfect in order to be enough. Through my own healing work, I learned how to step out of those cycles—and that’s why I’m so passionate about helping others do the same.
In therapy, I don’t bring my story into your sessions, but I do bring the empathy and understanding that comes from walking that road myself.
Clients often describe me as calm, compassionate, and thoughtful. I’ll support you fully while also inviting you to gently explore different perspectives—so you can honor your own experience while also gaining new insights that may open the door to change.
My goal is that you leave therapy not just coping, but truly healing—so you can feel confident, connected, and rooted in your own worth.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Clients often tell me they feel truly seen and understood in our work together—like they don’t have to explain or justify their pain. This sense of safety makes it possible for them to open up, often saying, “I’ve never shared this with anyone before.”
My approach is warm and compassionate—and also gently challenging. I’ll help you notice when certain beliefs or behaviors may be pulling you away from the relationships and inner peace you’re working so hard to find. I’ll always hold your story with care and never rush or judge your process.
I blend Internal Family Systems (IFS), humanistic, and attachment-based approaches to help you reconnect with your worth, relate more kindly to yourself, and build relationships rooted in authenticity—not performance.
Feeling Seen, Heard, and Supported
All testimonials shared anonymously, with client consent.
“I came in with anxiety, grief, and relationship issues—and just felt lost. Kristen met me where I was, focused on my goals, and even matched my sense of humor, which made me feel so comfortable. I left therapy feeling more at peace.”
– Past client, shared anonymously
“When I started therapy, I felt blamed and constantly in the wrong—like I was going to lose it. With Kristen, I finally felt seen. She helped me understand patterns like gaslighting and manipulation, and guided me in rebuilding self-trust after years of family trauma.”
– Past client, shared anonymously
“When I first started therapy, I was stuck in anxiety and overthinking—always wondering if I said the wrong thing or needed to fix something. Kristen helped me build a relationship with my parts. Instead of them fighting for control, we began working together. I trust myself more now, and I can show up more genuinely in my life and relationships.”
–Past client, shared anonymously
The Struggles You Don’t Have to Face Alone
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No matter how much you give, it feels like it’s never enough
You feel like no matter what you do, it’s never enough. Even when some people in your life reassure you, the voices that say you’re falling short seem to stay the loudest. No matter how much you try to push those thoughts away, they linger—and leave you questioning your worth in relationships.
In our work together, we’ll untangle those patterns so you can feel more secure, connected, and confident in your relationships.
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You’ve learned to put everyone else first—leaving little space for yourself.
Somewhere along the way, you learned that to be loved, you had to put others first. Over time, that’s meant sacrificing parts of yourself. Now, you find yourself feeling resentful—pouring into everyone else’s cup while yours stays empty. And when you finally ask for support, the very people who benefited most make you feel guilty for needing care too.
In therapy, we’ll create space for your needs and your voice, helping you set boundaries with compassion and reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve had to push aside.
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Even small mistakes feel like failure, and your inner critic never lets you forget it.
As long as you’re performing well, it feels possible to keep uncomfortable emotions at bay. But the moment you make a mistake, receive criticism, or fall short of “perfect,” everything comes crashing in. You feel the weight of failure, and your inner critic steps in—trying to protect you from ever making another mistake, even if it means carrying the burden of relentless self-criticism.
Together, we’ll soften that inner critic and build a new way of relating to yourself—one rooted in self-compassion, balance, and the freedom to be human without the weight of perfection.
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Your mind won’t stop racing, and your body feels the toll of carrying constant worry.
Your mind feels as busy as LA traffic—racing thoughts weaving in and out without pause. You wish you could quiet it, but instead your body joins in: a racing heart, shallow breath, tense muscles. And you’re tired of hearing unhelpful advice like “just stop worrying” or “it’s all in your head.” Because for you, it isn’t that simple—the weight of anxiety is real, and it impacts both your mind and your body.
In therapy, we’ll slow things down together so you can learn to calm your body, quiet your mind, and finally feel some space to breathe again.
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You’ve carried the weight of painful experiences alone for too long—and part of you is still waiting for comfort
The pain you’ve carried is locked away, like a vault deep inside. A younger version of you—the one who went through it—is still waiting for comfort, for someone to say “you’re not alone.” Part of you longs for others to provide that safety, while another part feels scared to face it at all. The push-and-pull is exhausting, and yet, the need for healing is still there.
In our work, we’ll go gently, at your pace, so you can begin to reconnect with those parts of you that have been holding the weight of trauma—bringing them the compassion, safety, and care they’ve needed all along.
What if you could finally feel like you’re enough, without having to prove it? Imagine a life where your worth isn’t tied to perfection, where your confidence shines, and where your relationships and overall life feel fulfilling. That life is within reach—and I’d be honored to help you get there.
You’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure it out on your own. Here’s your path to healing, step by step.
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Reach out via email or phone to set up a call. This gives us a chance to see if we’re a good fit—both in terms of specialty and personality.
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If we decide to move forward, we’ll start with an intake session where we explore what’s been weighing on you and begin identifying the parts of you that need care and attention.
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Through ongoing IFS parts work, we’ll tend to your inner world—so you can feel more grounded, connected, and aligned with who you truly are.
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Fees For Services
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I offer a 15 minute free consultation, which we will explore what you are looking for in therapy. This will help both you and me determine if this will be a good fit for your therapy journey.
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$175 per 50 minute session (Individual Therapy)
Out of Network. I am not in-network with many insurances, but many clients are able to use their out-of-network benefits to get reimbursed for a portion of session costs. If your plan includes this option, you could receive a significant reimbursement for our work together. I’ll provide you with a superbill (an itemized receipt) to make the process as simple as possible.
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Approximately 53 minute sessions
I currently am accepting Anthem Blue Cross, United Healthcare, Optum, Cigna, and Aetna.