It’s time to bring understanding to your inner world—and calm to your everyday life.
If your inner world feels chaotic or confusing, you’re not alone. I’m Kristen Silva, LMFT in California, and I help people untangle what’s going on inside so they can move through life with more clarity and confidence.
Here’s What to Expect in Therapy with Me
Tired of Feeling Like You Have to Hold It All Together
You might be the one others rely on—the one who’s always doing, helping, or performing— but inside, it feels like a constant swirl of pressure and self-doubt. Pushing yourself so hard might keep you moving… but it’s also left you exhausted and wondering who’s really in charge inside..
In our work together, you’ll have space to slow down and gently sort through the parts of you that feel overwhelmed or overworked. With curiosity and compassion, we’ll help you step back into the driver’s seat—so you can move through life with more calm and clarity.
Am I the Right Therapist for You?
You’re a woman who’s navigating:
Relationship stress, attachment wounds, or feeling disconnected from loved ones
Burnout from always taking care of others before yourself
A harsh inner critic that makes it hard to feel good about who you are
Unresolved pain or trauma that keeps resurfacing in daily life
A deep desire to understand yourself more fully and show up differently in your life
We might be a good fit if…
You’re looking for quick fixes or surface-level strategies
You’re not open to exploring your inner world or working with your emotions
You’re seeking court-mandated therapy, crisis services, or high-frequency availability.
It might not be the best fit if…
What Makes This Work Feel Safe and Effective
I draw from training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), a powerful model that helps you build relationships with the different parts of yourself—especially the ones that feel stuck, overwhelmed, or in pain—so you can experience more self-trust, clarity, and internal calm. I also bring years of experience working with women navigating anxiety, trauma, and relationship stressors.
But what really shapes my work is a deep belief in your capacity to change—even when it feels impossible. Clients often tell me they appreciate how I balance compassion with directness. I’ll challenge you when it’s helpful, but always with care. My job isn’t to “fix” you—it’s to help you understand yourself more fully, so you can move forward with more clarity, self-trust, and freedom.
My Background and Trainings
Education
2020 Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology, CSU Bakersfield
Modalities
IFS I trained
Attachment-based informed therapy
Credentials
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
CA license #146499
Specializing in…
THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIPS
You give so much in your relationships, but still question if you truly matter. In therapy, we’ll look at the patterns that leave you feeling this way and work toward relationships that feel more secure, supportive, and real.
THERAPY FOR EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM
When your emotions feel bigger than you can handle, even the smallest things can feel like too much. Therapy can help you slow down, make sense of what’s happening inside, and find steadier ways to move through life.
THERAPY FOR STRESS AND THE PRESSURE TO DO IT ALL
You’re constantly pushing yourself to get everything right, but no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough. In therapy, we’ll work on easing that pressure so you can feel calmer, more confident, and more at peace with yourself.
You don’t have to keep doing this alone.
If you’re ready to build a more compassionate relationship with yourself—even if you’ve never had one before—I’d be honored to walk alongside you.
Schedule a free consultation to get started.
What You’ll Take Away from Therapy
1. Notice what’s happening inside.
You’ll learn to spot the different “voices” inside you — the critic, the fixer, the anxious part — so they stop feeling automatic and overwhelming.
2. Meet those voices with curiosity.
Instead of arguing with them or trying to ignore them, you’ll practice listening in a curious, compassionate way. That softens them.
3. Find your calm center.
We’ll help you connect to the steadier, kinder part of you (your calm center) that can lead decision-making instead of fear or shame.
4. Help the worried parts let go of old stories.
Parts often hold painful beliefs from the past. When they feel safe, they can let go of those extreme beliefs and lighten their load.
5. Get your inner voices to cooperate.
The goal is internal teamwork: your parts can take on healthier roles so you aren’t stuck reacting the same way.
6. Try new ways of being in life.
With internal cooperation, you’ll experiment with different behaviors — setting boundaries, tolerating imperfection, trusting yourself — and see them work.
FAQs
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We’ll start by getting to know each other. I’ll ask some questions about what’s bringing you in, what you’re hoping to get out of therapy, and how things have felt lately. You don’t need to prepare anything—just come as you are. My goal is to create a space that feels safe, supportive, and unhurried.
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It’s different for everyone. Some clients come in for a few months to work through a specific challenge. Others choose to stay longer for deeper healing and growth. We’ll check in regularly about your goals, progress, and how things are feeling—so the process stays collaborative.
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I work primarily with women who carry a lot—high expectations, emotional pain, and the constant pressure to hold it all together.
Even if things look fine on the outside, they often feel anxious, disconnected, or like they’re just getting through the day.
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Therapy isn’t always a straight line, but over time you might notice shifts—feeling more grounded, setting boundaries more easily, reacting less intensely to stress. You may also start to feel more self-aware and less hard on yourself. I’ll support you in noticing and celebrating those changes along the way.
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Yes. I currently accept Anthem Blue Cross, Cigna, Aetna, United, and Oxford.
If you have a different insurance plan with out-of-network benefits, I can provide a superbill—a detailed receipt you can submit for possible reimbursement. Feel free to reach out if you’re not sure what your plan covers—I’m happy to help you figure it out. -
IFS is a therapy model based on the idea that we all have different “parts” within us—some that work hard to keep us functioning, some that hold emotional pain, and all of them trying to help in their own way.
IFS helps you get to know these parts and build trust with them, so you can feel more calm, connected, and in control.
You can learn more about it on this page—but we’ll take it one step at a time together.