Therapy for Parenthood / Identity Loss
You love your kids deeply—and still long to feel like you again.
You Have Started to Lose Sight of Yourself
You were looking forward to motherhood—building a family, soaking in the firsts, feeling that intense love everyone talks about. And while some of that came true… the day-to-day is a blur.
Whether it’s the sleepless nights and dirty diapers, or the constant stream of soccer practices, school events, and birthday parties—you’re always on. You’re trying to be the best parent you can: regulating your child’s emotions, navigating big reactions, and somehow managing your own at the same time.
And for many, that’s just one layer. You’re also holding down a career, managing the mental load of the household, and giving everything you have to everyone around you. It can feel like there’s a constant pressure on your shoulders—to show up, stay calm, get it all right—and it’s exhausting.
Somewhere along the way, you started losing pieces of yourself. Now, when you catch your reflection in the mirror, you find yourself wondering: Who even is that?
You’ve forgotten what makes you you—what brings you joy outside of your family. Maybe it’s been months since you saw your friends. Your favorite books gather dust on the nightstand. You miss the version of yourself who had creative energy, personal goals, or simply time to breathe. You love your kids. And you also want to feel connected to your own identity again—like more than just “mom.”
Reconnect with the parts of you that feel lost
Therapy gives you space to slow down and reconnect with who you are—beyond the noise, the pressure, and the roles you’ve been carrying.
Using a mix of IFS and attachment-based therapy, we’ll explore the different parts of you that are driving so much of your day-to-day. The part that holds the pressure to get everything right. The part that’s always bracing for the next meltdown. The part that just wants a break—and reaches for your phone during every quiet moment.
In therapy, you’ll learn how to relate to these parts with more compassion and understanding, so they don’t have to work quite so hard. As that internal intensity softens, what often emerges is a deeper connection to yourself—creativity, calmness, confidence, and clarity.
Sessions are warm and grounded—offering a steady space where you can show up just as you are. You won’t be rushed or expected to have it all figured out. We’ll move at a pace that feels right, creating space for insight, clarity, and real connection to take root.
What therapy can help you reclaim
Therapy for identity loss in parenthood can help you:
Feel less guilt about prioritizing your own needs
Be more present in your life and with your loved ones
Reconnect with yourself—and deepen the relationships around you
Build self-trust and confidence to ask for help
Reclaim hobbies and parts of your identity that were put on pause
Set boundaries and stand by them without apology
You can be a loving, devoted parent and a whole person.
There’s room for your needs, your voice, your joy. Let’s rediscover the parts of you that have always been there, waiting to be seen.
FAQS
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Yes. You don’t have to have all the answers to begin. Therapy is a space where we’ll gently explore what’s been lost, what still feels true, and what parts of you are ready to reemerge. You’ll begin to feel more like you again—bit by bit, in a way that’s grounded and real.
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That makes complete sense—your bandwidth matters. We’ll work together to find a rhythm that feels doable. Even just one hour a week can become a space that fills you back up, rather than drains you. You don’t have to keep carrying everything alone.
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Not at all. Gratitude and longing can exist side by side. Wanting to feel whole, joyful, or connected doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful—it means you’re human. Therapy can help you hold both things at once, without guilt or shame.
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It’s normal to worry about adding “one more thing.” But therapy often has the opposite effect: it creates space to breathe, reset, and reconnect with yourself—so you can show up in your life with more presence and less pressure. And that has a ripple effect on your parenting, too.