Part of you wants to slow down. Another part says you can’t afford to.
IFS Therapy in Bakersfield & Across California via Telehealth
Helping women explore these inner conflicts—so you can stop living in survival mode and start feeling like yourself again.
You’ve tried to be less anxious, more confident, or just a little kinder to yourself—and ended up feeling worse.
So many women feel this way—even if they don’t talk about it. Many women who are used to keeping it together have spent years trying to manage anxiety, stay in control, or meet impossibly high standards—using strategies that helped them function, but eventually became exhausting. When parts of you seem to be working against each other, it can feel confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming.
IFS offers a different way forward—one that helps you better understand what’s happening inside and build a more compassionate, cooperative relationship with yourself.
What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)?
IFS is a compassionate, evidence-based therapy model rooted in a simple truth:
We all have different parts within us. Some carry anxiety. Others try to keep people happy. Some push you to stay in control or avoid mistakes. And some still carry the weight of past pain.
Rather than trying to silence or fix these parts, IFS helps you gently get to know them—and begin to understand the roles they’ve taken on to help you cope.
IFS helps you change from the inside out—not by managing symptoms, but by listening to the parts of you that are driving them.
When we understand why a part is anxious, people-pleasing, or shutting down, we can begin to respond with care instead of control. As trust grows between your Self and your parts, the pressure to stay vigilant or self-critical begins to soften.
This approach helps you feel more grounded in who you are, make choices that align with your values, and build relationships that feel more honest and connected.
What to expect with IFS
As we build trust with these inner parts, you’ll begin to reconnect with your Self—the calm, clear, grounded place inside of you that can lead with confidence and care.
We’ll go slowly, at a pace that feels safe, starting with the parts of you that work hard to keep you going—like the voice that pushes you to be perfect, the one that keeps you quiet in relationships, or the one that never lets you rest.
These are your protectors. And instead of trying to get rid of them, we’ll get curious about how they’ve been trying to help. Over time, we’ll gently befriend these parts and explore what they need in order to step back. From this place, you’ll start to notice less anxiety, more self-trust, and a new ability to set boundaries without guilt. You won’t have to manage or micromanage your inner world—you’ll start to feel like yourself again.
IFS therapy can help you…
Recognize and quiet the inner critic without losing your drive
Set boundaries without guilt—and stick to them
Feel more calm, centered, and connected in everyday life
Let go of the pressure to do everything right
Respond to triggers with clarity instead of reactivity
Understand why your patterns make sense—and how to shift them
Build a more compassionate relationship with yourself
Internal Family Systems (IFS) can be helpful if you are struggling with:
Anxiety and chronic stress
People-pleasing and inner pressure
Relationship and boundary challenges
Trauma and unresolved past experiences
Self-worth and identity struggles