Therapy for People-Pleasing in Relationships
Even the strongest people deserve to fall apart, rest, and be cared for.
You don’t have to earn your worth by holding everyone else together.
It’s hard to ask for support when you’re always the strong one
You’re juggling a lot—at home, at work, in your relationships. You’re the calm in the storm. The one who stays steady while everyone else is falling apart.
But behind the scenes, the list of responsibilities just keeps growing. At work, you’re pushing yourself to keep up—doing more, being better, staying productive. People rely on you, and you’ve learned how to show up and perform. But now, it feels like you’re not allowed to have a bad day. Like the only way to be useful is to be strong.
At home, it’s the same. You’re trying to stay present for your kids as they move through big emotions. You’re showing up for your partner. Keeping up with friendships. Managing the invisible load that no one else seems to notice. And internally? You’re holding yourself together by a thread.
It’s exhausting to carry everyone else’s emotions—especially when your own rarely have space to be seen. And even when you do start to notice your limits, there’s that whisper inside: “Other people have it harder. You should be able to handle this.”
You’ve spent so long being the one who keeps it all going, it’s hard to imagine what it would look like to finally be cared for.
You might feel broken, yet what you’ve been doing has been helping you survive.
You’ve just learned that being strong means being selfless—but it doesn’t have to be that way forever.
You Get to Be Supported, Too
In this space, you don’t have to manage anyone else’s emotions.
You don’t have to be the calm one, the strong one, the one who always knows what to do. You get to be the one who’s supported. Tended to. Cared for.
Over time, that support starts to shift things:
You begin to recognize your needs without guilt.
You speak up more honestly—without overexplaining.
You start saying no without fear of losing connection.
And you finally start to feel like you again—not just the version of you that everyone else needs.
Therapy gives you space to take off the mask and slow down.
To let go of the pressure to be everything for everyone. To build a version of your life where you feel seen, supported, and steady—without having to hold it all.
Using a blend of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and attachment-based therapy, I’ll help you:
Notice the part of you that feels responsible for keeping others happy—and learn how to relate to it with curiosity, not criticism
Unblend from protective patterns that once kept you safe, but now feel exhausting
Explore how your early emotional experiences shaped your relationships—and how those patterns may still be playing out
Build safety and trust with the parts of you that carry deeper pain, especially the ones that have been hidden away
Practice showing up for yourself with the same care and compassion you offer others
Support isn’t just something you give.
You deserve it, too—and you don’t have to give up your strength to receive it.
When our work is done you may find yourself…
Making space for your emotions—without guilt or apology
Trusting that your needs matter, even when others don’t fully understand
Saying no with clarity, not shame
Offering care to others in a way that includes you, too
Feeling supported without needing to prove, perform, or earn it
You’ve been strong for so long.
Now it’s your turn to feel supported—without having to earn it. Let’s make space for your healing now.
FAQS
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That’s completely okay. You don’t have to have the “right” words or a clear starting point. In therapy, we’ll take things at your pace. You can show up exactly as you are—even if that means saying, “I’m not sure what I need yet.” That’s a perfectly valid place to begin.
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Therapy isn’t about staying stuck in the hard stuff. It’s about understanding what’s been weighing you down—and gently making room for something different. Together, we’ll hold space for what’s been hard and explore what’s possible when you don’t have to carry it all alone.
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This comes up often, especially for people who are used to being the reliable one. Needing support doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you’re human. Therapy can be a space where strength looks different: not in holding everything, but in allowing yourself to be held, too.
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There’s no such thing as a wrong thing to say in therapy. This is a space where all of you is welcome—tears, silence, frustration, confusion, all of it. You don’t need to be polished or perfect here. That’s part of what makes this space different.
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Not at all. I’ll guide you through the process step by step. IFS is a gentle, non-pathologizing approach that helps us explore the different parts of you—especially the ones that are working hard to keep you safe. You don’t have to “get it” before we start. All you need is curiosity and a willingness to show up for yourself.