Welcome to Roots of Healing

You Don’t Have to Hustle to Prove You Below

Heal the root, not just the symptom| IFS Therapist in California for women facing anxiety, shame, perfectionism, and people-pleasing

You are tired of living by other people’s expectations instead of your own

You give so much to everyone else, but at the end of the day you’re left feeling drained, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you’re ever “enough.” The voice of self-doubt is loud, and no matter how hard you try, it feels like the pressure never lets up.

You’re not alone—many women feel this pressure. The good news is, it’s possible to create a life that feels authentic and fulfilling. I’m here to support you every step of the way.

Imagine noticing the voice of self-doubt without getting pulled into it. Over time, you can respond with curiosity instead of shame, set boundaries without guilt, and move through your day with steadier confidence.

Therapy helps you live from your calm, clear center more often—even when life gets messy..

When we tend to what’s beneath the surface, your life can bloom in ways you never imagined.

I help women navigating anxiety, self-doubt, perfectionism, and relationship stress reconnect with their inner selves and begin healing from the roots. Through IFS parts work, we gently explore the parts of you that are trying so hard to help—the anxious part that keeps scanning for signs something’s wrong in that relationship, the perfectionist part that pushes you to succeed at all costs, and the shame part that shows up when things don’t go as planned. Together, we help these parts soften so you can feel more grounded, more whole, and more in charge of your life again.

A therapist in Bakersfield, CA. Kristen Silva LMFT #146499

About Kristen Silva, LMFT

I know what it’s like to feel the pressure to hold it all together while struggling underneath. For years I pushed myself to meet everyone’s expectations, believing I had to be perfect in order to be enough. Through my own healing work, I learned how to step out of those cycles—and that’s why I’m so passionate about helping others do the same.

In therapy, I don’t bring my story into your sessions, but I do bring the empathy and understanding that comes from walking that road myself.

Clients often describe me as calm, compassionate, and thoughtful. I’ll support you fully while also inviting you to gently explore different perspectives—so you can honor your own experience while also gaining new insights that may open the door to change.

My goal is that you leave therapy not just coping, but truly healing—so you can feel confident, connected, and rooted in your own worth.

Anxiety → Your mind races, and your body feels the toll of constant worry.

Relationships → No matter how much you give, it feels like it’s never enough.

Perfectionism → Even small mistakes feel like failure, and your inner critic never lets you forget it. 

People-pleasing →You’ve put everyone else first – leaving little space for yourself.

Trauma →You’ve carried the weight of painful experiences alone, and part of you is still waiting for comfort.

A steadier, kinder relationship with yourself is possible—and you don’t have to walk that path on your own.

The Struggles You Don’t Have to Face Alone

What if you could finally feel like you’re enough, without having to prove it? Imagine a life where your worth isn’t tied to perfection, where your confidence shines, and where your relationships and overall life feel fulfilling. That life is within reach—and I’d be honored to help you get there.

You’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure it out on your own. Here’s your path to healing, step by step.

  • Reach out via email or phone to set up a call. This gives us a chance to see if we’re a good fit—both in terms of specialty and personality.

  • If we decide to move forward, we’ll start with an intake session where we explore what’s been weighing on you and begin identifying the parts of you that need care and attention.

  • Through ongoing IFS parts work, we’ll tend to your inner world—so you can feel more grounded, connected, and aligned with who you truly are.

Fees For Services

  • I offer a 15 minute free consultation, which we will explore what you are looking for in therapy. This will help both you and me determine if this will be a good fit for your therapy journey.

  • $175 per 50 minute session (Individual Therapy)

    Out of Network. I am not in-network with many insurances, but many clients are able to use their out-of-network benefits to get reimbursed for a portion of session costs. If your plan includes this option, you could receive a significant reimbursement for our work together. I’ll provide you with a superbill (an itemized receipt) to make the process as simple as possible.

  • Approximately 53 minute sessions

    I currently am accepting Anthem Blue Cross, United Healthcare (Optum), Magellan, Cigna, and Aetna.